[Priyal Panchal]

Thanks a lot for the link Dr. Dhamija

Lastly, could you please suggest some lawyer in Mumbai who could help me on these issues.

[Priyal Panchal]

Thank you, Sir.
Also, is there any law that can address his behavior & neglect… Making it possible to safely co-habit the same house shared by the joint family? Especially towards our son… Some law that can abide husband and to have an emotional bond with our son or oblige him to at least not misbehave, ill-treat or neglect our son?

Lastly, is there a law that can help me demand to know what the joint family business is and where my husband is spending his salary (more so cause I have a gut feeling it is into something illegal)

[Priyal Panchal]

The policeman had said that we should try to understand each other at least for our little son’s sake and that my husband should be ashamed to have shown police station to a 1 year old child. So I have been trying in all this time… From my side… For son’s sake… His entire life will be disrupted. Don’t want him to suffer the stress & consequences of a broken family. My parents too had been of the same opinion that in legal action from my side and separation… Little son would suffer the most.
Few relatives have advice husband to see marriage counselor… Even i requested him a lot. But, not going nor any betterment in behavior… In fact, absolutely neglecting not only me but also our son… Neglecting all responsibilities towards us… Even financial. And he only initially approached my and other common relatives (with a lot of lies about me) and after they in shock and disbelief discuss with me and then want to talk to him toh then he doesn’t want to talk to anyone.. Says he is very busy (even during lockdown)
It was arranged marriage, there’s been lot of lying about big and small things… Even when the fake mangalsutra they gave lost golden colour after using for 2-3months and i asked my husband about it.. He first lied that the shopkeeper cheated them and that I should not discuss with anyone in the family as all would feel hurt and that he would handle it. After another 3 months… When I told him… What’s been done… Let’s visit the shopkeeper and hold him answerable… He confessed that the (joint) family as a whole (6members then) had planned to give a fake one. This is just one incident… There are many such. Frankly, the 3 senior citizens don’t have much of a say and my brother-in-law, older than my husband makes most of the decisions. He very often pushes my husband to further neglect his responsibility towards son and me. Husband is perhaps blind to all the family politics or the culprit himself (more because of his temper issues… Which get displaced violently resulting in inhumane behavior towards our child and me).
Sometimes husband says he has no money even for food for baby and me… He earns over a lakh a month and says he has to make investments as discussed with older brother from all his money… Barring around 2k that he can give me for child and my expenses (only says… Never given to me) I wonder if older brother is forcing him or husband is lying conveniently. He always says financial details are only between brother & him… He needs family’s permission before discussing anything about his own finance with me. (Sometime wonder if their running something illegal in joint family finance the way no details are ever shared and husband gets violent if i ever touch his phone or laptop)
Is there a law that can help?
Please advice how to go about if I feel that without the influence of the older brother, perhaps things could get better between us. Everything is so unfair and smartly manipulated by him…. In their room there’s an AC and in our room if I switch on fan while baby is sleeping in room… Fil fights about bill and says fan not needed gor little boy and even slapped me when I tried to swtich it on again. This was before the collective violence… But respecting his age, I didn’t do anything. Things only kept getting worse and not only for me…. Even the little baby is made to suffer in petty family politics.
Can husband be legally obligated of his responsibility towards us… Without divorce? (like we stay together as son is small and he still takes our responsibility) Divorce is something I never imagined for myself even in my worst nightmare and so went through a lot at the hands of husvand and inlwas…. Never even told my parents (as arranged marriage and they feel guilty…. But these people put up a completely different face before marriage)…. But can’t see little son suffer in all this
Are there other ways than legal… Like some activist groups or so that could help quicker than law? (don’t want to get into too much legal stuff with a little baby and no job at hand)

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