[Mayjune]

If you have evidences to prove allegations are FALSE, get a lawyer – ask your relatives, friends, anyone who knows a good lawyer. Talk to the lawyer immediately on phone for next steps. Don’t think about social stigma as people are going to know when police comes to arrest you. This is me one month ago but I did not have a NBW but a NB FIR and nasty police threatening me and my family to be taken to jail, get beaten and get on the table so that everyone involved could get their share of money. In my case, police came to arrest in 2 days after filing FIR so you might not have much time.

As far as I know, if you approach court with your evidences, you will get stay from court and notice to police that no action be taken against you and family members – most important at this point is to get good lawyer who can guide you in right direction.

[Mayjune]

god! what are these women achieving by putting husband and families behind bar and influencing to get them beaten. Are THESE so called loving , caring wives? The shear mentality they can get this done for whole family is itself proof that they are lying and are money minded. Don’t you expect husbands to earn millions, what harm in you being asked to spend sensibly… ?

In genuine cases (most of the time) I think, one or two people in family could behave bad not the whole family. Women should realize by involving whole family they are weakening their case as judge is forced to think that the case is goofy or colored up for torcher/extortion.

[Mayjune]

met with CO, he understands but says law doesn’t allow him to file second FIR for an offence that already has a FIR filed and investigation is on-going. So looks like who ever gets to file FIR first, gets away with it. Of course, girl is always the first one to do so since she has so many sympathizers and can do so without evidences.

Is this true? Can we not file FIR under 312 as there is one already by girl under 313? I am okay with that kind of law if it exists but the question is 313 was filed in cityA police station where they can influence the IO. How shall I deal with that?

[Mayjune]

tough road ahead mate! get a good lawyer and first of all get stay/bail. if you know your wife and her family’s primary intentions are to extort money from you and get you and your family locked up, beaten and bow before them, don’t get in the hands of police. You cannot trust anyone — it is a big — big messed up trap. You are lucky there is no 313, hopefully you will get stay on arrest by presenting your evidence.

[Mayjune]

we have come to know that 313 can NEVER be fruitful against girl since she doesn’t need husband permission to abort. Most people say they haven’t seen single case of 313 against women in their lengthy service. That means our FIR application is flawed -should we not pursue it? What other sections can we apply instead?

[Mayjune]

18 Jun- went to cityA police station. Got the stay order received. Had the sub inspector read all our proof given in writ. Had him listen to recording too. Inspector did not seem concerned about the false case against us though he did not say that in words, even had lunch with us. Got to know girl family has submitted doctor report with the FIR. Could not get any information about the doctor or nursing home so far. Looks like a local nasty NGO head had some role in drafting FIR , getting report etc. Got to know that NGO head is girlfriend of girl’s brother so that seems to be reason for her helping hand in false case (or maybe the NGO does false cases only – who knows?)

18th June evening – went to cityB police station to register our FIR on the application. Inspector asked us to come 19th June morning at 11 am and assured he will write the FIR.

19th June morning – went again to station. Inspector denied to write FIR. He said he will first investigate. Clearly – he is making us run around. Money didn’t work either. So, influence – YES. No one is telling us anything, who is influencing, where is it coming from? What can we do? So now – private complaint in magistrate court – Can you please tell us how much time does that process take?

Can we upload our recordings to social media (facebook) and have them sent to friends and relatives, office of girl and family? or whatsapp them – I have phone numbers of some contacts. Is that allowed since same recordings are our evidence in court? Media wouldn’t listen to men’s screams. But If we try, can we send them to media? Should I go visit some women NGOs with my mother and ask for support? Mother is really unwell these days 🙁 Would meeting NGOs be of any help? Is there any other means we can gather support?

Since listened to inspector saying No to FIR , can’t think anything. There is darkness in front of eyes. Please God ‘agle janam mujhe beta na kijo’

[Mayjune]

–update
high court stay order passed on Jun 13, yesterday June 17 police came again searching(this is fourth time), inquiring, checking entry registers, talking to people etc. I wasn’t at home. So high court stay but still this is happening. we can’t do anything? if police has not received court orders yet, that is also our responsibility to go to city A and get that done. Sure – i hope everyone guilty is doing that, non-guilty are definitely doing that. Tomorrow going to get order copy ‘received’ in police station-cityA. Let’s see.

From the facts mentioned by you, it appears that the police has directly registered the FIR in city A on the basis of the complaint given by wife.
— TRUE (with all sections mentioned in subject)

The FIR has to be lodged in the city where the offence took place
— YES, we gave the application in cityB where offence (apparently not) took place. Tomorrow I am going for FIR. I have proof, not sure police will entertain them. Let’s see

just want to write some where on what is happening. helps me get sleep for some time in night. Thank you.

[Mayjune]

Thanks so much. I appreciate your detailed response. This is the dilemma. We have evidence but to prove our innocence, we need to fight in court. At the same time, court case are very lengthy and advisable solution is mutual consent. Also, if we fight, we are running against the tide since law favors women (as evident from court granting hefty monthly compensation to girl despite us giving facts and without court knowing the genuineness of complaint)

I understand money will either go to girl or in litigation. I will prefer to spend money in litigation as girl family is too shrewd and greedy to be agreeing upon a reasonable compensation. But that decision does not just impact me but my whole family.

So coming back whole circle, it is actually end of road for man. Either way, he will suffer. I wonder if the law for girls was meant to serve this purpose and if any genuine women sufferer has gotten relief from this law. It is just harassment and exploitation by educated girls. If girl is educated and qualified, shouldn’t first investigation take place and then case be filed against boy and family?

Questions:
Here is our current course of action:
1) Have the court ruling ‘received’ at police station in cityA (because we came to know that police came searching for boy and family multiple days at home, office etc – the entire process of applying for writ took 10 days). While the boy was away, a summon was also sent at our home in the name of boy (by postman), however, the guard of apartment turned him away since no one was at our home to receive it. At this time, we have no idea what the summon was for. My question, does this ruling save us from wrath of police? [Clearly, girl family is either spending enormous money or using some source to have police come looking for us so many times]
2) Get our FIR filed in cityB or go to magistrate court with private complaint as suggested by you
3) Get date for mediation (court has advised to mediate for 3 months)
4) How long does it take for investigation to start for FIR started by girl family? Would it start in the time mediation process is in-progress? If it starts early, we at least have a chance to give our evidences to police before the mediation time of 3 months is over and we are back to square one.
5) We are also concerned about police investigation being influenced. I am not sure if currently the police is being influenced by money, reference or web of lies to carry out so many searches (I am in the process of finding more on number of searches carried out, summons etc). However if it is money or reference, then investigation can surely be influenced later too. So I am not a girl and I do not have police contacts, so it seems easy to put me behind jail just on basis of word of mouth by girl (valid or invalid, doesn’t matter).

Thankyou

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